What to expect with a newborn

Pregnancy can be an exciting time, but it can also be a bit overwhelming. After all, you're growing a human being. Once your baby is born, you'll likely have many questions. Know that this is totally normal.

The fourth trimester is the period of adjustment after your baby is born. It's important to remember that every baby and every family is different, so take generalised advice with a pinch of salt, as well as comments from well- meaning friends and family. The best advice is to follow your gut and go with what feels right for you and your family.

Here are some things you can expect during the fourth trimester:

Tiredness

It's common to feel exhausted after giving birth, especially if you have had a long labour or difficult birth. Your body has been through a lot and needs time to recover. For the first few weeks, it's a good idea to sleep when your baby sleeps. This may not be realistic for a longer period of time, as you may need or want to get out and about, but do it as much as you can in the fourth trimester to support your body to heal and recover.

Feeding issues

Whether you're breastfeeding or formula feeding, there may be some bumps in the road, or you may need support for healthcare professionals to make informed decisions. If you're having trouble breastfeeding, talk to your midwife, health visitor, or a lactation consultant. And if you're formula feeding ensure that you are feeding responsively. I have written another article on this here *link to responsive feeding article.

Crying

It's totally normal for babies to cry. It's their only way of communicating. They may need help to know that they are safe, as they have been born into a totally different world - compared to the one they were used to inside your tummy. Try to soothe them with rocking, skin-to-skin contact, lullabies, or pop them in a carrier as you go about your daily tasks. Your baby will usually eventually settle down and learn they are safe and you're not going anywhere.

Postpartum hormones

After giving birth, your body will go through lots of hormonal changes. You may experience mood swings, baby blues and even some form of mild anxiety—all very normal postpartum emotions. Don't be afraid to talk about it with your partner, family members, friends, or even your doctor. If any of your symptoms persist for more than two weeks, speak to your health visitor or doctor as this could be an early indication of postnatal depression. If this is the case, know that you are far from alone. Around 20% of mums experience some form of mental health problem post birth.

Lean on others for support and advice during the fourth trimester and talk about anything and everything to someone who loves you. They will not judge you for thinking or feeling a certain way.

Sleep deprivation is one of the most common and challenging aspects of having a newborn. It can be difficult to get enough sleep when you are constantly caring for a baby, and this can lead to exhaustion and feelings of overwhelm. There are a few things that you can do to help ease the challenge of sleep deprivation:

The first few months with a newborn are a special time for both parents. It can be tough going at times, but it's also a time of great joy and discovery. Here are some things to bear in mind that may help you and your partner through this period:

The fourth trimester is a special time for parents, as they get to know and bond with their newborn baby. It can be a time of great joy but also great anxiety and sleepless nights. By learning about the physical, emotional, practical and psychological changes that take place during the fourth trimester period by gathering information and seeking advice from people who know best you can prepare yourself to feel more confident and less overwhelmed. Remember, no question is ever a silly question. And trust your instincts!